I've given it a try here and there just because it's hard for a queer teenager to meet guys in the suburbs! The free sites are kind of sleazy but I've made a few friends although I've met many many guys from online (which probably isn't the smartest thing to do). They weren't liars or creeps everyone I've met in person from online was genuine enough. they were all just rather trashy. Anyway. I've been talking to this new guy who is really sweet and enthusiastic about meeting me. He asked me out and I've been feeling so good about myself because a cute guy is actually interested in me. We've chatted on msn and we get along well so my hopes were up. A friend of mine who is kind of a gay man-very *friendly* person knows this guy and was asked out by him a while ago and said that he's crazy and obsessive. I don't know whether i should still follow through and meet this guy and judge for myself or just avoid him altogether. I kind of have a thing for a friend of mine who may or may not be into me as well. I want him more than I want online guy but since i don't know where i stand with him i thought i'd give online guy a shot. I don't know if it's worth it. All guys are crazy. I think
~ArionMother of Longing. All-Connecting who joins the world in harmony,All things spring from You. Oh Divine Power. The Triple Fates are ruled by Your decree,All the works of craft and love yield to Your hand,With a smile. Oh Aphrodite you sway the all-encircling heavens the fruitful Earth and the Storming Oceans. All obey You all are awed by You-Orphic Hymn to Aphrodite
I'm always cautious about the online dating stuff. I know people who have met online.. met in person.. and there are 2 couples I know that had a fairytale wedding and are happily married. I know some people who are really into the online dating.. they are honestly addicted. Sometimes they travel to meet in person other times they don't. I've only met one guy this way and I didn't initiate it then. He was a nice enough fellow online.. and I think a little bored so he was whiling away his time. This was shortly after Katrina.. so I got some good information out of it anyway.. lol. On another note........... Are you and this online guy just IMg each other or do you talk on the phone? If you are just IMg.. then the next step would be to talk on the phone... voices can tell you a lot about a person. It sounds like you are really undecided which interest to pursue right now... the one with your friend... or the one online. Let us know what you decide....
HMmmm. Online Dating!I met my husband online. We had both gotten out of a relationship earlier that same year and we weren't looking (we actually met on Care2). Talked through Xanga (online journal akin to LiveJournal) talked through YIM and the phone. Decided to fly out here (Indiana (from California)) for a Yule gift to us both. That was December 27th. 2004. It is now December 27. 2007 - 3rd year anniversary. We've never been happier.
I've dated online. She was my first female/female relationship. But I was always cautious about it. And as for meeting people you know online... I say no matter how well you THINK you know them or how smart/nice/intelligent they sound. ALWAYS bring a trusted friend/family member with you. I do that with people I meet offline. I don't usually go on a date until I have the approval of the closet friend. They have to meet the person and the person has to get their thumbs up. That's just how I work. I do group before I do single. Except with the most recent... I just jumped into his car and went. Which is not normal for me!
Anyways it's all about safety precaution and.. did I mention safety? There's a lot of odd people online. But don't ever let someone tell you online dating isn't 'real' dating. As far as I'm concerned dating is dating no matter the medium you use. I'm just as real online as I am offline. But it's not the same for everyone. You must let us know how this weekend goes.
The good the bad and the ugly. And of course you know my viewpoint on if he comes after you with casual sex in mind. To me that's a big NO. Nay. Negative. I do not agree with casual sex. Sex is in my book something to be shared between two loving adults not something to be shared in a one night/two night stand. Sex is too intimate for it to be like that. For me.
@Arion hmmm.... If your friend has dealt with this guy before and you trust your friends judgement. I think I might at least spend some more time just chatting with guy and getting to know him better. And if at some point your gut starts telling you that something is off about this guy then do what you can to just leave it alone. I think. But. Good Luck and let us know what ya decide and all
As for online dating in general - I really don't know.... I suppose it's great and works out just fine for some people but I'm so sure I'd be comfortable with it really
I've not tried it but I'd rather post on a forum. You see how someone responds to others in a context other than flirting plus you're less likely to get sl*ts coming on to you because of the context i e discussions and fellowship and also because it's more open.
It's one way to meet people but I'm not all that interested anyway. I think I'm past that point now. Some of these meetups.. aren't they the ones where you have 5 minute conversations with someone and then move on to the next? I think that is kinda stupid really... JMO
My sister had a girlfriend that did this online dating thing. They chatted a bit and he posted a picture of himself. He was a good looking guy seemed nice.. so they decided to meet for drinks. Turns out the picture of himself was at least 15 years old and 60 pounds lighter than what showed up at the restaraunt.
Plus.. there are a lot of strange people floating around on the internet. I remember I posted quite a few pictures of myself on my MySpace page.. and I was deluged with Friend's Requests from men in my area of Texas. Most of them were married... and then I got these very odd messages from men that were married but were oh so unhappy and wanted nothing but friendship.. blah blah blah. I ended up setting my profile to private and taking down all my pictures. Freaks abound on the internet. Just saying.
Some seem really creepy. I get these Spam ones on IM...."Hi Sexy".. look at this hot site.."nakedwomengalore".. etc.. etc... I turn them in as Spam and block them.... I get 4-5 a day some are from people who cannot speak or write in English.
Are you and this online guy just IMg each other or do you talk on the phone? If you are just IMg.. then the next step would be to talk on the phone... voices can tell you a lot about a person.
Probably a good idea but I hate the phone and try to avoid it so I don't know about that
It sounds like you are really undecided which interest to pursue right now... the one with your friend... or the one online.
Yeah exactly. I'd pick my friend over online guy hands down. I just don't know if that's what he wants. I'm starting to have my doubts about online guy. At first it seemed perfect but perhaps I was getting ahead of myself
~ArionMother of Longing. All-Connecting who joins the world in harmony,All things spring from You. Oh Divine Power. The Triple Fates are ruled by Your decree,All the works of craft and love yield to Your hand,With a smile. Oh Aphrodite you sway the all-encircling heavens the fruitful Earth and the Storming Oceans. All obey You all are awed by You-Orphic Hymn to Aphrodite
Might I suggest webcam then? You not only get to see the person but hear them and analyze their character patterns. Quote:
Yeah exactly. I'd pick my friend over online guy hands down. I just don't know if that's what he wants. I'm starting to have my doubts about online guy. At first it seemed perfect but perhaps I was getting ahead of myself Tongue. I'll never find somebody
<3<3;(Seems like you need to do a pro/con list of each. But your own pro/con list. Not the standard ya dig? Quote:
Reminds me of the "poor Troy" story. Bear with. Hubbs has a buddy named Troy. Troy is socially a bit mmmmmm.. awkward??? (caustic immature unmotivated unemployed...) Troy decided he would try out one of these dating thingers. He starts e-mailing back and forth with a gal and they seem to hit it off. She sends a few pictures he sends a few pictures. They call each other and chat it up. A few months go by and they decide they would like to meet. Someplace neutral so they decide to get rooms at a hotel in Canada. Troy drives to Canada and meets said strumpet. Turns out she's ten years older and 75 pounds fatter than any picture she ever sent. Either that or she's a photoshop genius. Poor Troy decides to take this in stride. They go out to dinner where he tries to think of a way to get out of this kindly. Meanwhile the Senorita is drinking like a fish and becoming amorous. She decides to crawl under the table and 'service him'. He jumps up runs for the restroom and hopes to God that she wont be there when he comes out. No such luck. They finish dinner get in his truck and head back to the hotel. All of a sudden she yells "PULL OVER!!!"Poor Troy does. She decides she's going to give him the 'ride of his life'. Poor Troy. Poor Troy declines. She gets determined and gets nasty about it. Poor Troy is told that if he doesn't deliver the package she's going to go back to the hotel and tell everyone he raped her. Poor Troy is only about a mile from the restaurant. At this point he leaps out of the truck leaves the keys and everything else in it and makes a RUN back for the restaurant. Screaming bloody murder all the way. Halfway there he runs into a police officer to whom he tells the story to. The police officer catches up to the gal and gets Poor Troy his truck back and returns Ms. Thang to the hotel which Poor Troy checked out of as fast as he could and drove home. Never to online date again. Hey it might work out well or you could end up like Poor Troy - who has decided prostitutes get him what he's looking for and are more true to product in advertising.
hecked out of as fast as he could and drove home. Never to online date again. Hey it might work out well or you could end up like Poor Troy - who has decided prostitutes get him what he's looking for and are more true to product in advertising. Back to top
ROFLMAO doesn't begin to describe it. That's really a true story? Grief. Remind me to never try online dating. Well.... I mean... if it was a tall willowy redhead age 18-21 with a grandfather fetish..... maybe..... Lugh
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